Monday, 17 November 2014

5 Golden Rules For Life Enhancement

5 Golden Rules For Life Enhancement

• Find your purpose through your passion, and your passion through your purpose. • Let your values determine your behavior, and your behavior determine your values. • Develop consistency through self-dicipline, and self-discipline through consistency. • Improve your relationships through deeper connection, and deepen your connection through improved relationships. • Open your heart to joy and compassion, and let joy and compassion open your heart.

Thursday, 21 August 2014

Great salesmanship starts with a motivated salesperson!

Rhetorical tricks and clever devices, even if they're occasionally effective, don't make great salespeople; hard-working, self-motivated, optimistic people do. The cold, hard truth is that there really isn't any big secret to sales success. There's only the simple truth: motivated, positive, goal-oriented peoples are usually the ones who sell the most. 16 rock-solid rules 1) They have a great attitude and always do more than they're supposed to do. 2) They see themselves successful. 3) They don't prejudge; they don't assume; they don't minimize themselves, their prospects or their clients. 4) They are goal oriented. They have written specific goals and strategic plans for their lives, careers and business. 5) They are self-motivated. 6) Successful salespeople are in control. 7) They constantly practice and prepare. 8) They see and talk to more people than anyone else and get more people to say NO to them. 9) They take action! 10) They are persistent. 11) They sell more than just the product or service; because they understand who the customer is and what they really want. 12) They consistently create and sell value, rather than get stuck on selling price. 13) They understand that speed and ease are the two biggest benefits you can deliver to a customer. 14) They act as experts, advisers and resources to their clients, always ready to provide them with knowledge, expertise, information and education. 15) They are indispensable to their clients. 16) They absolutely, positively love what they do. --------------------------------------------------------------------------- 1) Attitude and Commitment : It all starts here. Have you ever been walking down the street when you spotted, in the distance, someone who you know is a very depressing person? What do you do? Probably cross the street or duck into the nearest store. But on the other hand, have you ever been walking down the street when you see that very positive and optimistic person coming at you? What do you do then? I'll bet you make a point of stopping and talking to that person. Why? Naturally, because they make you feel good. Nobody wants to talk to someone who makes them feel lousy, but everyone wants a shot at someone who makes them feel good. Basic human nature: Everybody wants to associate with a winner. People want to be part of winning situation and they run like hell from losers. As a salesperson, your attitude and commitment are critical to your success simply because attitude and commitment are what the clients buy. When you speak to a client or prospect your attitude and commitment are what they hear, see and feel. Most salespeople (and most people, for that matter) are so mediocre at what they do that most times, going the extra mile only requires you to go a few extra yards. WEAKNESS OF ATTITUDE BECOMES WEAKNESS OF CHARACTER. - Albert Einstein 2) Successful Salespeople See Themselves Successful. Where do this kind of attitude and commitment come from and what can we do to develop them in our lives and careers? As you'll find, attitude and commitment are not something we're born with. They must be developed through setting goals, planning and creating sense of focus, purpose and direction for your life and career. You are not born with a burning desire to be the best. There has to be reason, something you are committed to and and only you can decide what that is. The first step of the goal setting and planning process is to "see it". First and foremost, successful salespeople create visions for themselves. And because they are also able to create and communicate visions to their clients and prospects. Isn't that what you're supposed to do? Are you there just to get in the door, sell whatever the heck you can, and get out? Or are you there as a resource for that client, someone who will help them create a vision for their company and sell them solutions to their needs? However, if you cannot even create a vision for yourself, how can you possibly expect to create a vision for someone else? Not once through-out the process a successful salespeople ever stop seeing themselves successful. So see it; see yourself successful. Create in your mind a picture of what you want your success to be. Once you've created that picture of success in your mind, focus - focus in so clearly on that picture that you can describe it right down to its most minute details. Once you can focus on and describe clearly what it is you want, you're ready for the next step. So, do not be afraid to dream, because nobody stop you from dreaming. And if you don't have good dreams, there's only one thing left: nightmares! As an art person who studied photography, imagine and create visions for myself isn't a problem. I just need to imagine and create it with heart because sales/marketing isn't what I've learned before. Art persons are sensitive but most of them have no idea how to deliver or express the feeling(s) or thought(s). They've would just keep it inside, but as sales are what I'm doing now, I have to learn and apply whatever I've been taught and started to imagine I'm successful in what I'm doing now, because I've did 90k+ before but I've just lost my imagination/dreams which I had before, and I believe that I still can do it and how? I have to figure out by myself. Moral of story, never ever ever ever stop dreaming! 3) Setting Goals : Why you need them and why you need to write them down. True motivation is an internal force. It has to come from within. Nobody else can motivate you. Most salespeople are not self-motivated (as in the case with most people). They have no idea what motivates them. They have no goals and no plan for their lives, careers or businesses. Let's face it, if you don't know what you want, what's the motivation to go out and get it? What makes successful salespeople self-motivated? Simple - they have a clearly defines focus, direction and sense of purpose for their lives, careers and businesses. They know exactly what it is they want to achieve and when they will achieve it by, and they have clearly defined the specific steps they will take to achieve these goals. This focus, direction and sense of purpose keep successful salespeople on track and motivated. They know every morning when they wake exactly where they're going and how they're going to get there. Because they are so focused, its hard for other people to come along and get them off track. It's easy to knock the average salesperson off track. They'll go any direction they're asked to, since they don't have one of their own. It all starts with a sense of purpose or a goal and that goal must be written down. 3 specific reason why you need to write them down. i) So you don't forget. Now I know this sounds pretty stupid, but did you ever wake up in the middle of the night with a good idea - the kind of idea that's so good, it wakes you out of a sound sleep at 3a.m, the kind of idea that you know is going to make you millions of dollars? What did you do? Most people say, "I went back to sleep". If you did, what happened to the great idea when you woke up the next morning? Gone! One of the three most important reasons you need to write down your goals is so you don't forget. ii) The writing down of a goal is the first commitment to actually going out and accomplishing it. I really believe we all have goals, we all have dreams. But you know the big stuff you want? You know as well as I do that those are the kind of goals that could take you 2,3,4,5, 10 years of time, energy and effort to achieve. If you're not willing to take 5 or 10 minutes to write it down, what makes you think you'll be willing to invest 5 or 10 years of time, energy and effort towards achieving it? It's a lot easier to write it down than to go out and get it. If you're not willing to do the easy, what makes you think you'll ever be willing to do the hard? iii) The writing down of a goal makes you accountable to the only person you can't fool: YOU. Admit it, you can fool anyone you want. You can fool your spouse, parents, kids, boss, co-workers, friends and every living relatives, but there's one person who always knows the God's-honest truth: YOU. How are you going to feel when you have to admit to yourself that you weren't willing to do everything it takes to achieve what you said you wanted? As a matter of fact, I have actually met people who didn't want to write down their goals because then they wouldn't have to take accountability. Pretty screwed huh? All I know is no matter how much you try to run and hide, you still have to look in the mirror everyday TO BE CONT.............!

Thursday, 3 July 2014

10 Powerful Ways to Deal with Anger

Here are some practical suggestions for dealing with anger. 1. When you are angry say nothing. If we speak in anger we will definitely aggravate the situation and quite likely hurt the feelings of others. If we speak in anger we will find that people respond in kind, creating a spiral of negative anger. If we can remain outwardly silent it gives time for the emotion of anger to leave us. “When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred. “ - Thomas Jefferson 2. Be indifferent to those who seek to make us angry. Some people may unfortunately take a malicious pleasure in trying to make you mad. However if we can feel indifferent to them and their words; if we feel it is beyond our dignity to even acknowledge them, then there words and actions will have no effect. Also if we do not respond in any way to their provocation they will lose interest and not bother us in the future. 3. Use reason to stop anger. When we feel anger coming to the fore try to take a step back and say to yourself “This anger will not help me in any way. This anger will make the situation worse.” Even if part of us remains angry our inner voice is helping us to distance our self from the emotion of anger. 4. Look kindly upon Others. Another visualisation suggested by spiritual teacher Paramhansa Yogananda is to see the anger-rousing agent as a 5 year old child. If you think of the other person as a helpless 5 year old child your compassion and forgiveness will come to the fore. If your baby brother accidentally stabbed you, you would not feel anger and desire to retaliate. Instead you would just feel he is just too young to know any better. This exercise may be particularly useful for close members of the family who at times evoke your anger. 5. Value Peace more than anger. If we value peace of mind as our most important treasure we will not allow anger to remain in our system. As Sri Chinmoy says: “You may have every right to be angry with someone, but you know that by getting angry with him you will only lose your precious peace of mind..” 6. Always try to understand those who are cross. Don’t worry about feeling the need to defend yourself from their criticisms. If you can remain detached and calm they may begin to feel guilty about venting their anger on you. Inspired by your example of calmness they will seek subconsciously to do the same. 7. Focus on Something Completely Different. Suppose someone has done something to make you angry. Think about something which will make you happy. The best antidote to negativity is to focus on the positive. 8. Breathe Deeply. The simple act of breathing deeply will help considerably with removing anger. 9. Meditation. Practise meditation regularly to bring your inner peace to the fore. If we can have an inner access to our inner peace we will be able to draw upon this during testing times. - How to Meditate 10. Smile When we smile we defuse many negative situations. To smile is offer goodwill to others. Smiling costs nothing but can effectively defuse tense situations.

Saturday, 22 February 2014

How To Motivate Yourself – Self Motivation

Staying motivated is a struggle — our drive is constantly assaulted by negative thoughts and anxiety about the future. Everyone faces doubt and depression. What separates the highly successful is the ability to keep moving forward. There is no simple solution for a lack of motivation. Even after beating it, the problem reappears at the first sign of failure. The key is understanding your thoughts and how they drive your emotions. By learning how to nurture motivating thoughts, neutralize negative ones, and focus on the task at hand, you can pull yourself out of a slump before it gains momentum. Reasons We Lose Motivation There are 3 primary reasons we lose motivation. Lack of confidence – If you don’t believe you can succeed, what’s the point in trying? Lack of focus – If you don’t know what you want, do you really want anything? Lack of direction – If you don’t know what to do, how can you be motivated to do it? How to Boost Confidence The first motivation killer is a lack of confidence. When this happens to me, it’s usually because I’m focusing entirely on what I want and neglecting what I already have. When you only think about what you want, your mind creates explanations for why you aren’t getting it. This creates negative thoughts. Past failures, bad breaks, and personal weaknesses dominate your mind. You become jealous of your competitors and start making excuses for why you can’t succeed. In this state, you tend to make a bad impression, assume the worst about others, and lose self confidence. The way to get out of this thought pattern is to focus on gratitude. Set aside time to focus on everything positive in your life. Make a mental list of your strengths, past successes, and current advantages. We tend to take our strengths for granted and dwell on our failures. By making an effort to feel grateful, you’ll realize how competent and successful you already are. This will rejuvenate your confidence and get you motivated to build on your current success. It might sound strange that repeating things you already know can improve your mindset, but it’s amazingly effective. The mind distorts reality to confirm what it wants to believe. The more negatively you think, the more examples your mind will discover to confirm that belief. When you truly believe that you deserve success, your mind will generate ways to achieve it. The best way to bring success to yourself is to genuinely desire to create value for the rest of the world. Developing Tangible Focus The second motivation killer is a lack of focus. How often do you focus on what you don’t want, rather than on a concrete goal? We normally think in terms of fear. I’m afraid of being poor. I’m afraid no one will respect me. I’m afraid of being alone. The problem with this type of thinking is that fear alone isn’t actionable. Instead of doing something about our fear, it feeds on itself and drains our motivation. If you’re caught up in fear based thinking, the first step is focusing that energy on a well defined goal. By defining a goal, you automatically define a set of actions. If you have a fear of poverty, create a plan to increase your income. It could be going back to school, obtaining a higher paying job, or developing a profitable website. The key is moving from an intangible desire to concrete, measurable steps. By focusing your mind on a positive goal instead of an ambiguous fear, you put your brain to work. It instantly begins devising a plan for success. Instead of worrying about the future you start to do something about it. This is the first step in motivating yourself to take action. When know what you want, you become motivated to take action. Developing Direction The final piece in the motivational puzzle is direction. If focus means having an ultimate goal, direction is having a day-to-day strategy to achieve it. A lack of direction kills motivation because without an obvious next action we succumb to procrastination. An example of this is a person who wants to have a popular blog, but who spends more time reading posts about blogging than actually writing articles. The key to finding direction is identifying the activities that lead to success. For every goal, there are activities that pay off and those that don’t. Make a list of all your activities and arrange them based on results. Then make a make an action plan that focuses on the activities that lead to big returns. To continue the example from above, a blogger’s list would look something like this: Write content Research relevant topics Network with other bloggers Optimize design and ad placements Answer comments and email Read other blogs Keeping track of your most important tasks will direct your energy towards success. Without a constant reminder, it’s easy to waste entire days on filler activities like reading RSS feeds, email, and random web surfing. When my motivation starts to wane, I regain direction by creating a plan that contains two positive actions. The first one should be a small task you’ve been meaning to do, while the second should be a long-term goal. I immediately do the smaller task. This creates positive momentum. After that I take the first step towards achieving the long-term goal. Doing this periodically is great for getting out of a slump, creating positive reinforcement, and getting long-term plans moving. It’s inevitable that you’ll encounter periods of low energy, bad luck, and even the occasional failure. If you don’t discipline your mind, these minor speed bumps can turn into mental monsters. By being on guard against the top 3 motivation killers you can preserve your motivation and propel yourself to success. Confidence is KEY to keeping motivated.